It's no secret that we started
Lyla in karate for the positive behavioral benefits. I have to stay that her behavior has improved from this time last year. But, over the last month or two she has had trouble controlling herself when she gets mad. She resorts to hitting/kicking/pinching/throwing things, etc. As part of the belt graduation process, the parents have to sign a paper saying that the
childs' behavior at home is worthy of a ninja! This time I just couldn't do that. A week before graduation I went in and talked to Mr.
Klapheke and he agreed that she should not graduate with the rest of her class until she went for an entire week without incident! That was on a Friday. The graduation was the next week on Saturday. I told Grace and
Lyla on Saturday morning that they had to behave with no
aggression for an entire 7 days straight. They were both upset that I had talked to Mr.
Klapheke about their behavior.
Lyla had trouble on Saturday and Sunday. So on Monday Mr.
Klapheke took her aside and explained that if she went the rest of the week without a problem she could get her new belt and Saturday. He talked to her about why she needed to behave differently and how he believed she could do it. Well, she had another "incident" on Tuesday. She immediately realized what she had done and got very upset. But we stuck to the challenge and told her she could not get her belt on Saturday. The kicker was that Grace was going to graduate on Saturday so
Lyla had to actually attend the graduation and sit on the sidelines and watch. As we were pulling up to karate on Saturday for graduation
Lyla started crying. She didn't want to go in. She was embarrassed. She made me carry her and she was crying and hiding her face. It was very hard to do as a parent but I knew this would make an impression on her. Before the graduation began Mr.
Klapheke came over to her and patted her on the back and told her he was proud of her doing well the rest of the week, which she had, and that he would give her the new belt on Wednesday. She tried to get away from me throughout the entire 45 minute ceremony! It was not fun. But, after her incident that past Tuesday, she did not do anything aggressive again and was able to get her new belt the following Wednesday in class. He made a big deal for her at the end of class and presented her with her new belt. She was very happy! She did well for about another week or two. Lately we've had some problems creeping back up. Not sure what to do about that. I think I'm going to have to start a chart with goals for her to work toward in order to keep her behavior in check.
Lyla's a sweetie but she sure is
feisty!
It's no secret that we started Lyla in karate for the positive behavioral benefits. I have to stay that her behavior has improved from this time last year. But, over the last month or two she has had trouble controlling herself when she gets mad. She resorts to hitting/kicking/pinching/throwing things, etc. As part of the belt graduation process, the parents have to sign a paper saying that the childs' behavior at home is worthy of a ninja! This time I just couldn't do that. A week before graduation I went in and talked to Mr. Klapheke and he agreed that she should not graduate with the rest of her class until she went for an entire week without incident! That was on a Friday. The graduation was the next week on Saturday. I told Grace and Lyla on Saturday morning that they had to behave with no aggression for an entire 7 days straight. They were both upset that I had talked to Mr. Klapheke about their behavior. Lyla had trouble on Saturday and Sunday. So on Monday Mr. Klapheke took her aside and explained that if she went the rest of the week without a problem she could get her new belt and Saturday. He talked to her about why she needed to behave differently and how he believed she could do it. Well, she had another "incident" on Tuesday. She immediately realized what she had done and got very upset. But we stuck to the challenge and told her she could not get her belt on Saturday. The kicker was that Grace was going to graduate on Saturday so Lyla had to actually attend the graduation and sit on the sidelines and watch. As we were pulling up to karate on Saturday for graduation Lyla started crying. She didn't want to go in. She was embarrassed. She made me carry her and she was crying and hiding her face. It was very hard to do as a parent but I knew this would make an impression on her. Before the graduation began Mr. Klapheke came over to her and patted her on the back and told her he was proud of her doing well the rest of the week, which she had, and that he would give her the new belt on Wednesday. She tried to get away from me throughout the entire 45 minute ceremony! It was not fun. But, after her incident that past Tuesday, she did not do anything aggressive again and was able to get her new belt the following Wednesday in class. He made a big deal for her at the end of class and presented her with her new belt. She was very happy! She did well for about another week or two. Lately we've had some problems creeping back up. Not sure what to do about that. I think I'm going to have to start a chart with goals for her to work toward in order to keep her behavior in check. Lyla's a sweetie but she sure is feisty!
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